Calling Yourself “Self-Made” Is Bullshit

I always find it funny to read the term self-made somewhere or hear someone say that he is a self-made man because how big of an egocentric man you got to be to call yourself self-made?

It is true that those people really came a long way. It is true that most of them started with nothing. It is true that they worked harder than anyone else around them to get to where they are now. But it is not true that they are ,and anyone ever else will be, self-made.

To get somewhere in life we are all dependent on at least some sort of help. This applies to everyone. I’ve never come across one single person whose life wasn’t build on a foundation of parents, friends, teachers, and mentors.
We all have that one beautiful soul that we can always rely on, no matter what is going on. They give us a place to stay when we have nowhere to go. They support us when we most need it.
We all have someone who shares wisdom and advice with us. In times of darkness that’s the person we go to.
We all have some sort of idol in our lives. Although we might only know them from posters or the internet, they motivate us when we feel like giving up.

You might have that big vision. You might have that fire in your soul. But where would you really be without the help of all those people? Odds are, right where you began.

So how can you ever claim to be self-made? To say that to yourself  is an insult to every person and every piece of adive that got you here. You are only making a fool of yourself by believing that you are self-made. But the worst thing is that it gives the wrong impression to anyone that looks up to you: That they can do it alone.
I can’t. All the people I know or heard of can’t. You probably can’t. And those who look up to you probably can’t do it either.

We all need fuel to be added to our fire to keep it burning. Without the help, support, advice, and inspiration of others, we wouldn’t have that fuel and would be stuck with nowhere to go.

I bet you have learned something from all of them and oftentimes picked up something you didn’t expect. I bet that a big part of your day is designed after the pieces of advice you have received from others and implemented them in your life. Whether it’s your morning routine, your training, the way you treat people, the philosophy you live your life by, even the things you eat, or just motivation to get through your day.

The world is a classroom where you soak up lessons to add fuel to your fire. There will always be moments in life when you need outside motivation and advice. There will be a lot of times when you don’t have the answer to your problem and you are forced to look beyond yourself.

You can admit that you can’t do it alone. I can’t. Probably no one can. To deny it is just plain wrong.
So please stop calling yourself self-made because in reality none of us is.

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Don’t Set Life Goals

When I was a little kid my life goal was to have a million dollars and drive a red Ferrari.
As a teenager the million dollars became a hundred million dollars and I added a yacht and several more cars to the red Ferrari. Oh and don’t forget the huge mansion with this insanely large pool and with more rooms and bathrooms than one person could ever use. Despite the silliness of that life goal I believed I had a direction to where my life is heading. What I didn’t know back then as a little kid was that you actually have to work towards your goals. Silly me believed that all it took to achieve my goal was to think about it and life would magically find a way to make it reality!
But today I’ve ditched all of my life goals and replaced them with something better.

But what on earth is better than setting a goal for your life? It’s a simple answer so let me tell you about it. The thing that is better than to set a goal for your life is to set a goal for your day. Yes, you read that right. I am proposing you to ditch your life goals and replace them with daily goals instead. Before you go apeshit crazy and say something like: “What the fuck Maurizius?! How on earth will this help me to achieve anything in life? First I’ve got to endure your stupid writing and now this shit! My goal of the day is accomplished once I get my lazy ass out of bed and that’s hard enough, Jeez!”, let me explain first.

Now, to make this work you need at least some sort of idea of where you want your life to be headed. Otherwise you are just going around in circles. “But doesn’t that mean I need a life goal first? So what you’re telling us is just utter bullshit Maurizius!”. No, it’s not. It’s completely different and a lot better. Once you’ve got some sort of idea of who you want to be it’s plain simple. Before going to bed or after waking up the next day you set some goals for the day. Be aware they really have to be achievable in one day! So depending on the complexity of your daily goal you can set up any number of goals ranging from one up to infinite.

As I mentioned earlier I didn’t know that you have to put in the work to achieve your goals. What this concept does is that it cuts all the work it takes to achieve one’s major goal into tiny little pieces of which each can be accomplished within one single day. Because of that you will be productive without feeling overwhelmed of the amount of work that needs to be done. In addition it prevents you from drifting through each day without achieving anything. And the best part is that you will form habits that will transform your future life! Because as we all know it’s our everyday habits that determine what the future will hold for us.

Everyday

Excuse me but how the fuck are we supposed to get up everyday at 6AM while being thrown out of bed by an stupid alarm, squeeze into uncomfortable clothes, scoff burnt toast, manoeveur one’s car through everday’s traffic or even worse to get once again into the overstuffed metro while doing everything possible to not suffocate in this moving prison, to finally have arrived at that one place where the last glimmer of hope, joy, and happiness vanished years ago, to then make as much money as fast as possible for someone you only see twice a year while you merely get a fraction of it while still having to be thankful for this once in a lifetime “opportunity” and then still be happy and call this a fulfilling life?

Wouldn’t it be nice if the person who is forced to work could wake up to do the things that fulfill him and give him joy?
Wouldn’t it be nice if the person could reap the fruits of their labor while not being forced to give away most of it?

That he could call life. But the other thing isn’t worth being called life.
And maybe, just maybe said person would then really be thankful and happy to be alive.

But instead you are selling this construct to us you call “life”
just to satisfy your greed and to assisst you to accumulate worthless, materialistic possessions just so that you can forget about your inferiority complex.

Midsummer Book Recommendations

Since we are currently in the middle of summer and I’ve done a lot of reading since my last book recommendation round I thought it would be time to share with you some of the books that left a mark on me since.

1. Tools of Titans – Tim Ferriss

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Tim really delivers an allrounder with this one. No matter whether health, wealth or wisdom Tim has got you covered with all of these topics in this brilliant book thanks to the guests, ranging from our beloved Terminator Arnold Schwarzenegger to my favorite Author Paulo Coelho, that have appeared on his Podcast. You are looking for advice? I am sure Tim has got you covered with this masterpiece. If you can’t get enough of Tim’s writing, his books “The 4-Hour Workweek” and “The 4-Hour Body” are worth a read too.

2. Unshakable – Tony Robbins

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For those of you who are unfamiliar with Tony immediately check out his documentary “I Am Not Your Guru” on Netflix or look him up on YouTube. He really is an energised, happy, passionate, and wise animal. With “Unshakable” Tony Robbins delivers the perfect guide to financial freedom for the average person. It’s an easy, detailed, and well written step-by-step guide to money mastery. So for all of you who are struggling with money or want to have money way beyond retirement this book is for you. And if you want to get an even deeper look into this topic, make sure to check out his book “Money”.

3. Elon Musk – Ashlee Vance

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This book does three things to you. First of all it shows you what an insane, and persistent workaholic Elon Musk is. Second it let’s all your problems and probably your entire existence seem useless because who needs us when there is Elon Musk. Third it motivates and inspires you. It was three in the morning when I finished this hell of a book and I will tell you I was never in my life more motivated to save mankind while building rockets and driving around in my (imaginary) fancy Tesla while feeling like Iron Man. Because honestly Elon Musk is just the real world’s Tony Stark. Give this book a try you will either never do anything in your life anymore or you will want to change the world and try all the things at once. There is no in between.

4. Der Club der Traumtänzer – Andreas Izquierdo

This book is for all my german readers and those capable of the German language. Unfortunately I wasn’t able to find an English copy so it seems like this book is only available in German right now. Nethertheless I still wanted to share it with you. This book was gifted to me so naturally I hesitated to read it because the story seemed to be very predictable.I rather finished four books until I finally read it. I never regretted it more in my life to have waited to read a book. I finished it in one sitting because the story was just so well written and the book was an easy read too. So if you are looking for an entertaining and easy to read book while relaxing and tanning, this is my recommendation for you.

Living In The Moment

We are carrying the burden of self-consciousness with us wherever we go. But what exactly is this burden I am talking about? It’s the burden of being able to imagine the future. We are able to conceptualise a future with our eyes closed. First of that this is even possible is amazing. I mean do you realize what that actually means? While you are physically sitting somewhere right now in the present moment your mind is able to imagine your possible future. Your mind is not only able to imagine your life for the next few days but it is able to imagine it for the next weeks, months, and years leading up to your death. I found it to be really mind blowing once I really gave a thought to it.

However, the downside is that because you are able to do such a thing you now begin to worry. You can see the future coming and you think “Uh oh! The future is coming better start getting shit done.” It is not just the present anymore that you have to worry about. You don’t just have to worry about whether you are hungry right now. You are going to have to worry about whether you will be hungry tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. But this doesn’t only affect your worry about your hunger. It spreads out to all areas of your life. Are my bills paid? Will I be able to continue working to earn money? Do I have to worry about getting fired? What if I get sick? Will I be able to provide not only for myself but for my wife/husband and child?

So what do we naturally do? We begin to work. What does that mean? We sacrifice the present for the future. But the price we pay for that is tremendous. We don’t get the present. And that’s a big price to pay right? What we are doing is that we put all the potential suffering of the future and put it into the present. All the time. Maybe we are able to live longer and healthier but we lose one essential part of living. That part is happiness.

You won’t be happy until you can stop worrying about the future and just focus on the present. Who really is unhappy when they are really living in the present? It most certainly won’t be you. Don’t believe me? Try it out. Just stop all your thinking for a moment and start to look around. Look around your room. Look outside the window and notice what is going on. Start to get a feel of your body. Notice your breath. Notice how your lungs fill with oxygen while breathing in and how they start to relax once you breath out. Begin to smile. You don’t have to laugh just a quick smile and you will feel better. Notice how all your worries came to a pause for moment? That is what living in the present actually is.

We won’t find true happiness and we won’t stop worrying  until we learn how to live in the present and enjoy the moment. It isn’t just something that happens overnight. It is a skill that needs to be carefully practiced every single day. If that is to much for you, start with 3 times a week. But in all honesty if you aren’t able to pull this off daily you are in need for a 6 month long vacation. At least twice this year. This little practice won’t consume much more than a minute of your daily live but it will sure change the rest of it. Soon you will be able to enjoy more and more the present moment and start worrying less and less about your future. And all of a sudden without you even noticing it you are living in the future.

We Should All Take A Time Off Sometimes

Nowadays we can’t move fast enough. We multi-task everything we do in the hope of not missing out on life and the many opportunities it offers us. We believe that time is running against us. That time is our enemy. We believe that if we can’t do and get the things we want right now, we will never get to enjoy them. But boy (or girl) are we wrong about that. Just stop for a moment, take a deep breath, and realize that time is NOT your enemy. From now on time is your new best friend for life. You don’t lack time. You lack patience.

As a matter of fact we all do. But believe me when I say that we have more than enough time in our lives because life is the longest thing we will EVER experience. I know. I know. Mind blowing. For those that aren’t convinced don’t come at me with the “But life is too short” stuff. Because, no, life is not too short to experience the beauty of it. If you believe that life is too short, then you just haven’t yet learned about that magic word called “Priorities”. Although life is indeed too short to sit around and whine about how life is too short. So get up and collect some beautiful memories!

But there is more behind taking a time off than just collecting beautiful memories. Distance from the things you are surrounded by in your everyday life can have a huge effect on how you spend your time in the future. Sometimes it is only from a distance that we can see what is really going on in our lives.

Ask yourself if the things you are spending your time on still ignite that little spark in you. Ask yourself if your body is still filled with joy. Ask yourself if you can still see yourself doing this for another few weeks, months, years or even decades. If you can’t find a positive answer to those questions, you may have arrived at that one point in life where you should take a few steps back and really take a look from the distance at your current situation. Locate the things that bother you or leave you unsatisfied and eliminate them. There is no need to carry unnecessary weight with you on your journey.

I told you life is the longest thing we will ever experience but that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t spend our time wisely and solely on the things we really enjoy doing. And Sometimes all it takes to get back your energy and happiness is a really long break from the things that surround you.