Calling Yourself “Self-Made” Is Bullshit

I always find it funny to read the term self-made somewhere or hear someone say that he is a self-made man because how big of an egocentric man you got to be to call yourself self-made?

It is true that those people really came a long way. It is true that most of them started with nothing. It is true that they worked harder than anyone else around them to get to where they are now. But it is not true that they are ,and anyone ever else will be, self-made.

To get somewhere in life we are all dependent on at least some sort of help. This applies to everyone. I’ve never come across one single person whose life wasn’t build on a foundation of parents, friends, teachers, and mentors.
We all have that one beautiful soul that we can always rely on, no matter what is going on. They give us a place to stay when we have nowhere to go. They support us when we most need it.
We all have someone who shares wisdom and advice with us. In times of darkness that’s the person we go to.
We all have some sort of idol in our lives. Although we might only know them from posters or the internet, they motivate us when we feel like giving up.

You might have that big vision. You might have that fire in your soul. But where would you really be without the help of all those people? Odds are, right where you began.

So how can you ever claim to be self-made? To say that to yourself  is an insult to every person and every piece of adive that got you here. You are only making a fool of yourself by believing that you are self-made. But the worst thing is that it gives the wrong impression to anyone that looks up to you: That they can do it alone.
I can’t. All the people I know or heard of can’t. You probably can’t. And those who look up to you probably can’t do it either.

We all need fuel to be added to our fire to keep it burning. Without the help, support, advice, and inspiration of others, we wouldn’t have that fuel and would be stuck with nowhere to go.

I bet you have learned something from all of them and oftentimes picked up something you didn’t expect. I bet that a big part of your day is designed after the pieces of advice you have received from others and implemented them in your life. Whether it’s your morning routine, your training, the way you treat people, the philosophy you live your life by, even the things you eat, or just motivation to get through your day.

The world is a classroom where you soak up lessons to add fuel to your fire. There will always be moments in life when you need outside motivation and advice. There will be a lot of times when you don’t have the answer to your problem and you are forced to look beyond yourself.

You can admit that you can’t do it alone. I can’t. Probably no one can. To deny it is just plain wrong.
So please stop calling yourself self-made because in reality none of us is.

You are the captain

Imagine your life works like a ship.
That ship needs a captain.
But who is it?

You should be the person at the wheel.
Imagine what would happen if you let a passenger take the wheel?!
Would he even know how to steer? Where the ship is going?
Your ship would be damned to sink. There wouldn’t be any chance to save it.

But you, as the captain of this ship, would intervene before it’d be too late.
You are the only person that knows how your ship works.
That knows where your destination is.

Now ask yourself: “Who is steering my life right now?”
Are you, as the captain, still at the wheel?
Or did a passenger take it a long time ago?
If so, you should act before it’s too late.

How long have other people been steering your ship?
Are you still on course?
Are you still responsible for it?
Is it still your ship?
Why did you let it come this far?

You wouldn’t want a ship to sink but you want your life to?
You should better act immediately to prevent the catastrophe.
You only have this one life.
Would you rather be a bystander of your OWN life?
Or would you like to take control and responsibility of your OWN life?

Get back what is yours.
Take course on the destination you wanted to arrive at.
Design your life how you desire it.

As the real captain you know how to steer your life.
What it needs and what it doesn’t.
Get it back before it’s too late.
No person other than yourself is going to do it!

Everyday

Excuse me but how the fuck are we supposed to get up everyday at 6AM while being thrown out of bed by an stupid alarm, squeeze into uncomfortable clothes, scoff burnt toast, manoeveur one’s car through everday’s traffic or even worse to get once again into the overstuffed metro while doing everything possible to not suffocate in this moving prison, to finally have arrived at that one place where the last glimmer of hope, joy, and happiness vanished years ago, to then make as much money as fast as possible for someone you only see twice a year while you merely get a fraction of it while still having to be thankful for this once in a lifetime “opportunity” and then still be happy and call this a fulfilling life?

Wouldn’t it be nice if the person who is forced to work could wake up to do the things that fulfill him and give him joy?
Wouldn’t it be nice if the person could reap the fruits of their labor while not being forced to give away most of it?

That he could call life. But the other thing isn’t worth being called life.
And maybe, just maybe said person would then really be thankful and happy to be alive.

But instead you are selling this construct to us you call “life”
just to satisfy your greed and to assisst you to accumulate worthless, materialistic possessions just so that you can forget about your inferiority complex.

My life

The world is mine to take.

I am after anyone who says I won’t make it.

I am getting everything I can while giving back double to the family.

I am not here to live for a moment but to live a whole life.

Trying anything instead of nothing just to make it.

Rather fail than not even try at all. Those who don’t try already lost.

They can say what they want but I am going to die standing up for my beliefs.

But no matter how much I achieve in my mind I am still running behind.

I am going to get everything even if you are blocking my way.
And if you are, you should better run boy ’cause I am not leaving my path.
I am going to bulldoze anything and anyone who is blocking my way.

I am tireless.
I am unstoppable.
I am the captain of my own ship.

I am moving mountains just to make it possible.

Got a dream in my head which I am going to realize.

I am not insane at most megalomaniac.

You want to fight me?
Better be prepared for never ending losses.

Size of an elephant. Willpower of a lion. Adaptability of a chameleon.
I am the fittest in the room. I am the king of the jungle.

This is my life and I am steering.

My time is now.

We Should All Take A Time Off Sometimes

Nowadays we can’t move fast enough. We multi-task everything we do in the hope of not missing out on life and the many opportunities it offers us. We believe that time is running against us. That time is our enemy. We believe that if we can’t do and get the things we want right now, we will never get to enjoy them. But boy (or girl) are we wrong about that. Just stop for a moment, take a deep breath, and realize that time is NOT your enemy. From now on time is your new best friend for life. You don’t lack time. You lack patience.

As a matter of fact we all do. But believe me when I say that we have more than enough time in our lives because life is the longest thing we will EVER experience. I know. I know. Mind blowing. For those that aren’t convinced don’t come at me with the “But life is too short” stuff. Because, no, life is not too short to experience the beauty of it. If you believe that life is too short, then you just haven’t yet learned about that magic word called “Priorities”. Although life is indeed too short to sit around and whine about how life is too short. So get up and collect some beautiful memories!

But there is more behind taking a time off than just collecting beautiful memories. Distance from the things you are surrounded by in your everyday life can have a huge effect on how you spend your time in the future. Sometimes it is only from a distance that we can see what is really going on in our lives.

Ask yourself if the things you are spending your time on still ignite that little spark in you. Ask yourself if your body is still filled with joy. Ask yourself if you can still see yourself doing this for another few weeks, months, years or even decades. If you can’t find a positive answer to those questions, you may have arrived at that one point in life where you should take a few steps back and really take a look from the distance at your current situation. Locate the things that bother you or leave you unsatisfied and eliminate them. There is no need to carry unnecessary weight with you on your journey.

I told you life is the longest thing we will ever experience but that doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t spend our time wisely and solely on the things we really enjoy doing. And Sometimes all it takes to get back your energy and happiness is a really long break from the things that surround you.