Calling Yourself “Self-Made” Is Bullshit

I always find it funny to read the term self-made somewhere or hear someone say that he is a self-made man because how big of an egocentric man you got to be to call yourself self-made?

It is true that those people really came a long way. It is true that most of them started with nothing. It is true that they worked harder than anyone else around them to get to where they are now. But it is not true that they are ,and anyone ever else will be, self-made.

To get somewhere in life we are all dependent on at least some sort of help. This applies to everyone. I’ve never come across one single person whose life wasn’t build on a foundation of parents, friends, teachers, and mentors.
We all have that one beautiful soul that we can always rely on, no matter what is going on. They give us a place to stay when we have nowhere to go. They support us when we most need it.
We all have someone who shares wisdom and advice with us. In times of darkness that’s the person we go to.
We all have some sort of idol in our lives. Although we might only know them from posters or the internet, they motivate us when we feel like giving up.

You might have that big vision. You might have that fire in your soul. But where would you really be without the help of all those people? Odds are, right where you began.

So how can you ever claim to be self-made? To say that to yourself  is an insult to every person and every piece of adive that got you here. You are only making a fool of yourself by believing that you are self-made. But the worst thing is that it gives the wrong impression to anyone that looks up to you: That they can do it alone.
I can’t. All the people I know or heard of can’t. You probably can’t. And those who look up to you probably can’t do it either.

We all need fuel to be added to our fire to keep it burning. Without the help, support, advice, and inspiration of others, we wouldn’t have that fuel and would be stuck with nowhere to go.

I bet you have learned something from all of them and oftentimes picked up something you didn’t expect. I bet that a big part of your day is designed after the pieces of advice you have received from others and implemented them in your life. Whether it’s your morning routine, your training, the way you treat people, the philosophy you live your life by, even the things you eat, or just motivation to get through your day.

The world is a classroom where you soak up lessons to add fuel to your fire. There will always be moments in life when you need outside motivation and advice. There will be a lot of times when you don’t have the answer to your problem and you are forced to look beyond yourself.

You can admit that you can’t do it alone. I can’t. Probably no one can. To deny it is just plain wrong.
So please stop calling yourself self-made because in reality none of us is.

You are the captain

Imagine your life works like a ship.
That ship needs a captain.
But who is it?

You should be the person at the wheel.
Imagine what would happen if you let a passenger take the wheel?!
Would he even know how to steer? Where the ship is going?
Your ship would be damned to sink. There wouldn’t be any chance to save it.

But you, as the captain of this ship, would intervene before it’d be too late.
You are the only person that knows how your ship works.
That knows where your destination is.

Now ask yourself: “Who is steering my life right now?”
Are you, as the captain, still at the wheel?
Or did a passenger take it a long time ago?
If so, you should act before it’s too late.

How long have other people been steering your ship?
Are you still on course?
Are you still responsible for it?
Is it still your ship?
Why did you let it come this far?

You wouldn’t want a ship to sink but you want your life to?
You should better act immediately to prevent the catastrophe.
You only have this one life.
Would you rather be a bystander of your OWN life?
Or would you like to take control and responsibility of your OWN life?

Get back what is yours.
Take course on the destination you wanted to arrive at.
Design your life how you desire it.

As the real captain you know how to steer your life.
What it needs and what it doesn’t.
Get it back before it’s too late.
No person other than yourself is going to do it!

Don’t Set Life Goals

When I was a little kid my life goal was to have a million dollars and drive a red Ferrari.
As a teenager the million dollars became a hundred million dollars and I added a yacht and several more cars to the red Ferrari. Oh and don’t forget the huge mansion with this insanely large pool and with more rooms and bathrooms than one person could ever use. Despite the silliness of that life goal I believed I had a direction to where my life is heading. What I didn’t know back then as a little kid was that you actually have to work towards your goals. Silly me believed that all it took to achieve my goal was to think about it and life would magically find a way to make it reality!
But today I’ve ditched all of my life goals and replaced them with something better.

But what on earth is better than setting a goal for your life? It’s a simple answer so let me tell you about it. The thing that is better than to set a goal for your life is to set a goal for your day. Yes, you read that right. I am proposing you to ditch your life goals and replace them with daily goals instead. Before you go apeshit crazy and say something like: “What the fuck Maurizius?! How on earth will this help me to achieve anything in life? First I’ve got to endure your stupid writing and now this shit! My goal of the day is accomplished once I get my lazy ass out of bed and that’s hard enough, Jeez!”, let me explain first.

Now, to make this work you need at least some sort of idea of where you want your life to be headed. Otherwise you are just going around in circles. “But doesn’t that mean I need a life goal first? So what you’re telling us is just utter bullshit Maurizius!”. No, it’s not. It’s completely different and a lot better. Once you’ve got some sort of idea of who you want to be it’s plain simple. Before going to bed or after waking up the next day you set some goals for the day. Be aware they really have to be achievable in one day! So depending on the complexity of your daily goal you can set up any number of goals ranging from one up to infinite.

As I mentioned earlier I didn’t know that you have to put in the work to achieve your goals. What this concept does is that it cuts all the work it takes to achieve one’s major goal into tiny little pieces of which each can be accomplished within one single day. Because of that you will be productive without feeling overwhelmed of the amount of work that needs to be done. In addition it prevents you from drifting through each day without achieving anything. And the best part is that you will form habits that will transform your future life! Because as we all know it’s our everyday habits that determine what the future will hold for us.

Wealth

We all want it. Each and every one of us.
Maybe some more than others.
We all know that we want it.
There is no denying it.
But we all want it a different way.

To be wealthy.
But rich in what exactly?

Do we want to be wealthy to escape our worries?
To have no responsibilities?
To be free from guilt?
To be free from grief and desire?

Why are we only talking about wealth when it’s about money?
Isn’t a person who can do every single day the things he love wealthy too?
Isn’t it him who is wealthy because he is free from restraints?
Isn’t a person who is filled with happiness for the rest of his life wealthy too?
Isn’t it him who is wealthy because he recognized what really matters?
Isn’t a person who is blessed with health wealthy too?
Isn’t it him who is wealthy because he is able to move and think freely?

Why is a person only wealthy when he’s accumulated a huge amount of money?
Why is said person so proud of having a huge amount of money,
while having nothing else?
Aren’t those who only have the most money in reality the one’s who are the poorest?
All that money without realizing what really matters.

Driven by greed, power, satisfaction, social status, and approval.
Those people are supposed to be wealthy?
Even though they’ve forgotten what gratitude is?
What it means to be humble?
What appreciation is?
What it means to love?
What it means to be happy?
What it means to be healthy?
They are supposed to be wealthy just because they have money?

Yes, it sucks to have no money in a money driven society.
Yes, it sucks to be regarded as poor.
It sucks to not really live in freedom but just in a small zone of possibilities.
It sucks to not be able to pursue one’s dreams.
It sucks to always face the same recurring problems.
It sucks to live only from paycheck to paycheck,
instead of being able to enjoy the richness of life.
But the truth is we got to eat shit first to be able to enjoy being wealthy.

But if being wealthy means to sell one’s soul,
then I would trade in my money for my older life any time.
I rather die broke but happy and aware of what it really means to be wealthy.
Then I would die rich but spoiled without having lived one single day being actually wealthy.

Love or Hate

In the end it’s only about love or hate.
We’re making things way more complicated than they actually are.
It’s only about deciding who you want to be.

Will you become a loving person to make yourself and your surroundings happy?
Will you become a hating person to make yourself and your surroundings bitter?

In the end it’s only you who decides how your life will look like.

We either begin to love each other and become happier.
Or we begin to hate each other and spend the rest of our lives in anger.

We could change so much just by understanding that.
Be it the way we interact with each other.
The way we perceive things.
The way we teach things to future generations.
But most people won’t realize that.

 

Everyday

Excuse me but how the fuck are we supposed to get up everyday at 6AM while being thrown out of bed by an stupid alarm, squeeze into uncomfortable clothes, scoff burnt toast, manoeveur one’s car through everday’s traffic or even worse to get once again into the overstuffed metro while doing everything possible to not suffocate in this moving prison, to finally have arrived at that one place where the last glimmer of hope, joy, and happiness vanished years ago, to then make as much money as fast as possible for someone you only see twice a year while you merely get a fraction of it while still having to be thankful for this once in a lifetime “opportunity” and then still be happy and call this a fulfilling life?

Wouldn’t it be nice if the person who is forced to work could wake up to do the things that fulfill him and give him joy?
Wouldn’t it be nice if the person could reap the fruits of their labor while not being forced to give away most of it?

That he could call life. But the other thing isn’t worth being called life.
And maybe, just maybe said person would then really be thankful and happy to be alive.

But instead you are selling this construct to us you call “life”
just to satisfy your greed and to assisst you to accumulate worthless, materialistic possessions just so that you can forget about your inferiority complex.

The Gallery

Imagine your whole life would be exhibit in a gallery.
Every single moment. Everything you have ever experienced. Every single day.
Would you want to see it?
What would the people that visit this gallery think of you?

Would you be proud of your life?
How would you feel while strolling through the gallery?

Every single visitor would know exactly who you really were.
They wouldn’t see the life you wish you could have lived,
but the life you have really lived.

Would you still be proud to show people around the gallery of your life?
If not, you should ask yourself why you don’t want to show your life to the people.

Is it the job that you disliked but still have spent three quarters of your life on?
If that’s the case then 75% of your gallery would be filled with it.

Is it because you have been rude to 90% of the people you have met?

Is it because you only have spent 2% of your time on the things that really fulfilled you?

All of it would be visible for every single visitor in the gallery.

But now imagine that you have made 90% of the people you encountered happy,
and gave them joy, helped them, or just have been nice to them.

Imagine that you have spent 98% of your time on the things that really fulfilled you.
That made you happy. That gave you joy. That gave you meaning.
While you have spent only 2% of your time on the things you didn’t enjoy.

Would you now be proud to show people around the gallery of your life?

The point is that you should change your life as much as it takes,
for you to not only be proud of it but to show it to others.

Ask yourself every single day if today would be a day for your gallery.

Enjoy your life to the fullest because who knows
if you aren’t doomed to wander around your gallery forever in the after-life?